The #1 Reason Why Most People Fail To Get What They Really Want

For years now, I’ve noticed a trend. Whether I’m teaching one-on-one, in a group course, or online workshop, people tend to have one of two reactions:

Either, they take these ideas and use them to radically transform their lives. They begin to prioritize their own happiness, their energy skyrockets, and they achieve whatever they set their minds to.

Or…They don’t.

They don’t follow through, and life stays pretty much the same as it’s always been.

So…what gives?

How can people take the exact same knowledge and techniques, but get drastically different results?

And, knowing this, how you can you virtually guarantee you wind up on the success-side?

The answer has everything to do with your beliefs.

Why Change Works Sometimes…But Not Others

The reason why change works for some people and not others is really, really simple.

It all boils down to whether you hold empowering or disempowering beliefs.

When you hold an empowering belief, you fundamentally believe you can change. You know, with absolute certainty, that the actions you are taking, right now, are leading you towards your goal. This creates an incredible amount of inspiration, and builds up your resilience for when you encounter the inevitable obstacles along the way.

On the other hand, people who fail to meet their goals almost always hold disempowering beliefs.

They want something, but deep down, they don’t actually believe they can have it.

They might take action towards their aims, and they might try to change for a little while, but subconsciously they’re actually talking themselves out of it. They say things like…

  • It isn’t possible.
  • It isn’t realistic.
  • It isn’t worth the sacrifice.

Think about it: if you fundamentally believe that something isn’t worth the effort, or that results will never materialize for you, why would you even try?

Compare that to someone who fundamentally believes that their goals are possible. The internal narrative sounds something like:

  • I can do this.
  • I’m making real progress.
  • Everything will work out, even if I don’t know how.

Which approach do you think is more likely to create positive, lasting change? Which approach do you think is more likely to achieve real results?

Someone who has empowering beliefs will do better than someone who has disempowering beliefs…even if they’re given êxactly the same information, strategies, and exercises!

Which brings us to the next key question: how do you make sure you’re in the empowerment camp?

In my experience, it comes down to avoiding a simple mistake.

The #1 Mistake People Make

On any given subject (for any specific goal you set for yourself), you probably have some empowering beliefs, and some disempowering beliefs, and that’s ok.

In fact, it’s entirely nromal to have some negative beliefs about your most important goals. That’s part of what makes those goals exciting and meaningful for you.

BUT, you have to make sure you are aware of them.

The number 1 mistake people make when it comes to their own growth is that they aren’t aware of their limiting beliefs. They aren’t aware of the negative thoughts that are subconsciously talking them out of their dreams.

Regardless of the goal, we have a nearly universal tendency to focus on the physical causes and effects, while neglecting the underlying energetic causes of our life circumstances. These energetic causes come in the form of our emotions, our beliefs, and our level of consciousness and awareness.

When you shift your focus to your energy – when you start paying attention to how things feel, and what beliefs you really hold – your physical environment will transform.

Action becomes effortless, and your goals begin to flow more easily towards you.

This is the secret of true empowerment. It’s the ability to create anything you want, because you understand that your experience begins within your mind.

When you learn to follow your inner joy, your most natural energy, you can begin the path towards true personal empowerment.

3 Responses

  1. Kathy says:

    Thank you for this post. I have come to this point where I know that I feel it before I think it. I can tell these are old beliefs that I have never really paid attention to because they hurt. In meditating for a while now, I’m finally learning that these old thoughts and feelings won’t hurt me and I’m allowing them to be heard, which seems counter-productive, but… I know it is productive as I feel better on the other side.

  2. Carla says:

    I am on Day 5 of the 30-day Meditation Course and am enjoying it immensely. I feel that the meditative music, along with Kyle’s clear but calm voice, is part of the magic. I feel a big shift coming on!

  3. Sibulele says:

    I’m so grateful for having come across this platform. I feel good already and I’m only on day 5 🙂

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